Overcoming the fear and loss of someone in your life

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Of all the fears, losing someone close to us is the worst. Since the fear of losing people or the loss of someone is a familiar topic, nobody accepts it and possibly finding it very difficult to overcome the situation. Before trying to overcome, remember the following points;

1. Knowing the reason why!

Examine where it went wrong or what's the reason that caused someone to leave you. Probably there would be three possible reasons according to me;

• It's your fault somewhere.

• They felt uncomfortable being with you.

• There's a third-person in between.

So if it's your fault and if you feel you're right, then accept the fact that they are no longer in your life. But, if you really feel guilty for your mistake, try changing it. Maybe it'll help you in future relationships. Second of all, if they decide not to be with you, question them because when you don't know the reason behind it, the unknown reason will haunt you at times. When you know the reason, try to agree with it and understand it's their choice to stay or to leave. The third possibility, there would be some other person who turned out to be the reason for ruining your good relationship. If it's the third one, agree that they don't deserve to be with you.

2. What if they are your closely related person?

I understand. It's literally a tough situation when you lose the person who was your top priority. Speaking about my personal past life, I had lost many friends and closely related people that put me into depression, where it made me feel insecure and lonely. Sometimes, situations make us lose or sacrifice our close circle too. Yet, reality doesn't wait for us to depress over it and we have to move on. Certainly, you will end up feeling lonely but you should understand a fact which I personally believe.

"People who are meant to be in your life will surely stay accepting all your flaws."

3. How can one overcome it?

Being kind to yourself is very important at this point. Don't build up situations for yourself which will lead you to worry more and itself allowing you to create new emotions. I agree, there is no way the loss of a particular person is replaceable. But, there is always more room for happiness and peace in life. Moreover, people between the age of 17 to 30 are more likely to meet temporary people and face undeniable circumstances which surround them with temporary people too. This is where we have to be wise in choosing people. Be friendly with everyone but choose a correct set of people whom you want in your life, whom you can trust and respect.

4. Decisions to be noted yourself

• Stop depressing over people who don't care about you. At one point, you will have to give up on certain people or their past existence in your life for your betterment.

• Sad truth is "Nothing lasts forever". It'll take you a lot of experience to accept this reality but once you get to understand this, you can surely stand up for yourself.

• Never be an imprisoner to the thoughts of someone who's no more in your present life. When you get caught into sad emotions, it will make you not move further in life.

• Don't try depending upon others for your living. It doesn't matter even if they are your family or very close friends, you must know how to make decisions as you always cannot depend on someone for your life.

Above everything,

"Be grateful for whatever made you strong no matter even if you lost it."

- Jubilin Vinifa