Expectations and Dissatisfaction

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The power of imagination and dreaming of something out of reality always leads to expectations. When expectations aren't fulfilled, it provokes inner dissatisfaction and makes you feel emotional or unhappy in your living. Expectations can be hurtful at times, but when someone else's expectations are dumped into you, it might be more uncomfortable.

1. Why does it hurt?

First, know why expectations hurt. Expectations are a possible or impossible belief where someone wants the result of a particular incident to come up favorable to their thoughts. But what if it doesn't happen the way you think? Yeah, that's when it hurts. Everyone lives a life of expectations. For example, when a child expects his parents to get him a toy but despite getting it, he gets chocolates. He might become disappointed in it. Similarly, that's how expectations and reality works.

2. Why is it necessary?

Understand why those expectations are needed for your life. Sometimes you expect others to give or behave the way you wanted to. This kind of expectation will become a toxic part of the relationship you have with that person. They may or may not be able to provide all the required expectations you impose on them. You should be very careful about this. Since it might lead you to lose that person too. Keep such thoughts in mind only if it is necessary for your life.

3. When it is beneficial in life?

Accepting and moving on with reality can be made into a tool to overcome this dissatisfaction from expectations. Let go of all the impossible expectations you are obsessed with. But there might be few expectations which you can personally achieve too. For example, you expect to reach your goal. So when you put effort to achieve it with more hard work, this expectation you once had, will be fulfilled and turn into reality. When you have such expectations in reaching goals, surely it becomes a benefit in your life.

4. Why not live a content life?

Few expectations can be turned into reality. On the other hand, try enjoying the things and with life, you live in. We're able to have a good status in life. Precisely, you're able to read this but there are so many people who are disabled, don't have sufficient money to afford a phone, moreover few people don't even get proper food and shelter.

"We must be thankful to God for all the little things we enjoy."

Life itself is a precious gift. So don't let your expectations become a disappointment in life. Make peace within and so you'll live a happy and content life.

"Reality cannot be changed, but expectations can be".

- Jubilin Vinifa